About five months ago, I saw people panicking everywhere in my hometown. I saw it on Facebook, too. People were talking about how America would collapse if a certain President was elected. There were giant signs out in front of churches that read “save America now” and “last chance to save our country before it’s too late.”
Today I read an article about how the economy is doing better than it did before the recession. Maybe some folks get a little hysterical when they feel strongly about their opinions.
Perhaps they will end up correct. This little upswing in the economy might crash right back down and everything could go haywire. I doubt it, but it’s certainly possible.
I like to think that I have learned a few things in this life. One of the most pertinent I’ve picked up is that there are swings, and lots of ’em. There are big swings, little swings, and sometimes you take swings like a baseball player.
I’ve always been a fan of roller coasters. Ever since I can remember, I have loved riding them. When I was kid, I think I gave my dad a headache from going on the same one over and over again somewhere out in Missouri. Roller coasters are a terrific example of the flow of life and the swings that occur. There are ups and downs. Some are big and some are small. There may even be a few loops in there somewhere.
In this life, we all face ups and downs, highs and lows. We may land a great job, get a raise, get a record deal, or win the lottery. Turn around and a loved one dies unexpectedly, a spouse leaves us, or a job is lost. In between these swings is where you, the person, have an unimaginable power.
You can sit there and say that your life is over and wallow in sadness and self-pity. I wouldn’t blame you if you did. It can be easier in some regards. But if you slip into the mindset that everything is over, then it will be. The ride ends and your life will not improve.
I’ve heard some people call this dip between the swings the dark night of the soul. I’ve been through a few myself. The power you have is to push through those dark nights, when all hope seems lost. You, alone, have the ability to say “I am going to be okay. There is another hill in front of me and I’m going to climb it. And when I do, I will be on top again.”
Sometimes, we are hard-headed. We think we need to get our job back, our spouse or significant other back, or that things need to be the way they were. But you can’t do that. You have to go forward. That may mean we have to let go of something that seemed great. It’s okay. Something great will be waiting at the top of the next hill.
The real key to pushing through the dark night or the dip quickly is acceptance. We have to learn to accept the swings. They are, after all, inevitable in this life. No matter how high you get, you can always be brought back down. It is your mindset that determines the overall outcome.
I once heard someone say that if you took away all of a millionaire’s money, in a year, they would be a millionaire again. That certainly applies to things beyond the scope of finances. People with a mind and spirit like that accept the swings, they understand them. And they also know that things will get better again. And they will get worse. And better. When I write novels, my plots always have lots of swings in them. If they didn’t, they would be boring! 🙂
That is the flow of this life. Maybe it teaches us something about the universe itself. I don’t know. But I do know that the sooner you accept the swings, the more at peace you will be and the more consistent your life, stress levels, and emotions will become.